Paul Pierce is making headlines again.
And this time it isn’t for having a bunch of random strippers on his live stream, but it does give some context as to why he would’ve done that to begin with.
The controversy is about his views on marriage.
Said Pierce: "Let me say what marriage is and who marriage is for. Marriage is for old people and poor people. Because when you broke, our parents, like my moms and all them, they married on a merit of like, okay, we’re gonna put our incomes together, have all these kids, and then when our kids, we’ll have five, ten kids, back in the 60s, all them, they got five, ten kids so they can work and bring income.
Paul is not just swearing off marriage, he’s swearing off relationships in general. With that said, men don’t get this way for no reason. So, let’s split up and look for clues as to why this man is so jaded about relationships.
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Piercing History
As an empath, I try to give everyone some grace. So, before I speak on accountability, I will say that it’s clear that Pierce has seen a lot of negative marriages and relationships throughout his lifetime.
On the one hand, he was speaking about his parents, whom he apparently believes got married and had kids only because they were poor. This makes sense given that, per public information, his parents divorced when he was very young, and he didn’t build a relationship or even get to know his father until he was older.
Paul also has an unsuccessful marriage of his own under his belt. He married his long-time girlfriend, Julie Landrum, in 2010; that marriage has since been dissolved under murky circumstances. They have three kids.
Moreover, per his new beliefs on marriage, it would seem as though his ex-wife received a hefty settlement as a part of the divorce, which often causes people to become jaded about marriage in general.
Nevertheless, Pierce is grown, and blaming your tainted life view on past experiences is always a choice.
Why Some Moneyed Men Devalue Women
When it comes to the relationship matrix, red-pillers are more like a group of Cyphers than Neos. Indeed, although they seem to be living their best lives while bucking the system, in reality, many of these men are suffering from childhood trauma that assures them that love is a fallacy and women only want them for their money.
No matter how many times they state these so-called facts matter-of-factly, imagine how empty life would be if you had all the money in the world, but having that money is actually the reason you will never trust another living soul — a very lonely existence, to say the least.
Nevertheless, just as men always tell women, most of these men are victims of their own dating preferences and refuse to go beyond them in order to enjoy any semblance of true love.
And no, I’m not saying that men can’t have physical preferences when dating; we all do. The problem is that certain types of men dream of making money, so they can choose from the “finest women” on the planet, but are somehow flabbergasted when the women they climbed the paywall to reach turn out to be all about money.
Of course women love financially successful men, but that is not enough to keep a woman of substance. Ideally, these men would seek women who have similar interests as them, who are of a similar intellectual capacity, who have similar goals, and who are genuinely capable of loving them for who they are.
Unfortunately, it often takes lots of time and effort to find such people, no matter who you are. So, when it comes to spoiled rich men, finding the perfect mate often seems like more work than it’s worth.
Therefore, they simply continue to date the women who hang out in spaces where cash is king, secretly hoping to hit the jackpot. When they don’t, they decide that all women are disloyal and can be bought, and so, at least they can enjoy the better-looking ones until they inevitably pass away.
They figure money can’t buy love, but it can buy companionship, and it can’t buy loyalty, but it can afford you professional care as you age. So, rather than truly trying to build anything substantial with any given woman, they choose surface-level connections that inevitably lead to boredom, which makes it easy to bounce from one woman to the next.
I See, Said the Blind Man
At the end of the day, taking dating advice from Paul Pierce is the epitome of blind leading the blind. His success has made it feel next to impossible to trust anyone. It doesn’t help that he comes from a demographic that constantly devalues women and is one of the least likely to marry in general: Black men.
Therefore, he has decided that all women are money-hungry succubi, thus protecting his broken inner child’s views. This makes it far easier to project his insecurities onto others, instead of getting professional help that would allow him to heal and be vulnerable enough to truly find love.
Unfortunately, having a few dollars is all it takes for many men to take on his talking points like they’re the law. Men who lack direction will often follow any man with motion. So, when a man who is as successful as Paul Pierce tells them marriage is only for old and poor people, they believe it.
Sadly, for them, this couldn’t be further from the truth. One thing men like Pierce often fail to mention is the fact that billionaires believe in marriage more than most demographics. In fact, with an 85% marriage rate, with 88% of those billionaires being men.
What’s the difference?
Well, one of the main differences is that billionaires are more focused on leaving a legacy than most. This is likely because they have a lot more money and resources than the average person. They are also more inclined to align with traditional values, as having that level of wealth often results in a shifted world view, as you have much more to lose.
Billionaires are less likely to resort to frivolous relationships with superficial women because they know how easily their legacies can be tarnished. Moreover, they fully understand the power of a functional family unit and the undying support and love of a truly devoted wife.
For instance, this 93-year-old billionaire, Larry Silverstein, speaks of marriage as a team sport, something many millionaire men can’t even seem to fathom.
Either way, being married to a woman literally allows men to live longer and healthier lives. If that’s not a benefit, I’m not sure what is.
Men like Paul Pierce are too jaded by their own experiences to see the beauty in marriage. To him, all women are gold diggers, and he represents their tickets to Easy Street.
Nevertheless, an adjusted perspective can show how fulfilling life can be with the right woman. Although there’s no way to diagnose over the internet, it does seem like he is sex obsessed, which forces him to consider all aspects of life from a vantage point that puts sex before all else.
And when you’re a rich man using money to attract the best sex partners, your options are only as good as your net worth.
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