If you're just now tuning into the Megan and Klay debacle, you have some catching up to do.

I originally called out men, Black men, in particular, about how butthurt they all were over Klay dating her and treating her well, at least as far as the public eye is concerned.

Suffice it to say, misogynoir is alive and well.

We're Gathered Here Today

Now, the reason we're addressing this matter again is that, obviously, the couple has broken up, and Megan has disclosed that it was because he cheated on her.

No, it's not exactly breaking news that a pro baller cheated on his partner. However, what does seem to be catching people's attention is the fact that a plethora of Black men are overly excited to find out Klay cheated on Megan.

Let's take this post, for example:

For context, Lil' Duval is an unwed 47-year-old father of one daughter. For some reason, at his big, grown age, and despite his celebrity status, he still champions men who use women to elevate their dating lives and throw them away like trash.

And honestly speaking, I do think someone like Mr. Duval would have said this if he had cheated on most women. I do think there's an extra level of vitriol that comes when it's an unambiguous, darker-skinned Black woman.

I mean, the way he says this is as though he believes Klay could do better, but he also acknowledges that dating Megan has likely made him a more eligible bachelor with more dating options now that the relationship is over.

And now is the time for me to speak directly to brown women and girls:

Don't date to elevate.

Period.

I'm not saying you should never work with a man. But be mindful, these types rely on Black women's nurturing and forgiving spirits because it allows them to prey on us and use us as punching bags when they're at their lowest. And the fact that most of us have been trained to date based on potential rather than reality has been very much to our detriment.

Many men seek out Black and especially darker-skinned women when they are down. This is why you’d regularly hear Black people assert that Kanye "needs a Black woman" amid his recent mental health spirals. Those words were never uttered when he was thriving without the mental health issues. You may also note that these same Black men never called him a simp for actually marrying Kim Kardashian, even though her career literally began with a sex tape. No shade, no tea.

Now, I can’t definitively say what Klay Thompson’s mental state is these days, but I can say his star was beginning to fade in the NBA. He was traded from the Warriors to the struggling Mavericks around 2024. And his overall performance (minutes, points, etc.) has been declining as well. Yet and still, basketball fans found a way to blame Megan for his athletic decline, and per her own words about his moodiness toward her during the season, so did Klay.

To be clear, I'm not saying the man is washed up or untalented, but in the world of pro sports, when your stats start dropping, and you're traded to a worse team, it's often only a matter of time before you're traded right out the door.

So, while I can't say for sure that he might have been seeking out a partner to help reignite his fizzling star, I can say that it would have made perfect sense if he were.

.The "Choose Better" Conundrum

On paper, Klay Thompson is the epitome of "choosing better" for most women. He's a successful NBA player with a relatively clean persona, zero baby mamas, comes from a two-parent home with parents who are still together, and who, at least in public, seems to treat women with respect. Megan had a history of gravitating towards the "bad boy" type, so Thompson was supposedly a step up.

This is why the men have been so triggered by his dating and moving in with her; they wanted him to "do her dirty" because she's a brown woman with an imperfect past, thus, that's all she deserves.

Cool.

We also can’t gloss over the fact that many of these men still blame her for Tory Lanez’s conviction, because despite all the evidence, they’re convinced that she should’ve taken the bullet fragments on the chin and certainly should’ve never dared to speak out about what happened to her in public. We also can’t forget about the ones who believe the whole situation is some grand conspiracy set up by Jay-Z, Megan, and Roc Nation. Also, let’s not forget the ones who simply believe she deserved it.

At the same time, this brings me back to all the backlash Black women receive for “choosing the wrong men.” You blame Black women for dating the men they’re most comfortable with or most attracted to, but when they go outside of that, you immediately put pressure on the men to not treat them well or take them seriously.

So, who should these Black women date? No one?

If Black women date the bad boys, it's their fault if they get cheated on. If they date the good guys, they don't deserve them, because they have a past. And if they date out, they are bed wenches who deserve to have their lives ended.

Yes, that's also a thing.

The High Value Myth

The more men point the finger at Black women, the more the real issue becomes clear: Black men want Black women back in a position where they have to accept and be happy with just any man.

Think about it, although Black women are constantly told to "choose better," what happens when we actually do? This Klay-and-Megan debacle is a clear glimpse into that.

Megan was being called all types of whores, simply for dating men while single. Sure, she slept a few, but there is no proof of when and who. Yet, it's assumed that she slept with every man she has been pictured with, and thus she is washed up, used goods, who men are to only have sex with but never treat well or marry.

Before this, Klay was being called a simp for taking Megan seriously. But now that it's coming out that he's a serial cheater with a mean streak, the brotherhood is embracing him as one of their own. I'm sorry, isn't this the same body of men we're being told to "choose better" from?

At this point, it should be crystal clear that such men mean Black women no good. They police our every move, and when it's time to hold someone accountable for what they did to us, they instead embrace them and give them a pat on the head for taking the time to humble yet another beautiful Black woman.

Although women are being sold on seeking out higher-value men, it seems that the value begins and ends with their wallets. When it comes to parenthood, marriage, etc., there is zero accountability for men who step outside the lines.

Quite the contrary, these men are actually encouraged to date and devalue as many women as possible, while dangling the coveted monogamous relationship over their heads like a carrot at a stallion race.

Cheating is a Choice

Men who are rooting for Klay have simply revealed their own lack of integrity. As we've seen with the likes of Ne-Yo, Cam Newton, and countless others, rich men (and even many of the broke ones) can live whatever lifestyle they choose.

However, there is a huge difference between telling women you're not monogamous and pretending to be to gain access to them without disclosing the full truth. The latter is just deceptive and, in some ways, predatory. It's also pointless when you're a man of means.

The problem is that these men seem to prefer a situation in which they gain the upper hand through deception and manipulation rather than simply telling the truth.

They want the “challenge” of tricking a woman who normally wouldn’t for his type, into falling madly in love with them. And they also want to reap the benefits of good women who are crazy in love with them and willing to cater to men who they believe are ideal partners.

This is because they are often disinterested in their true counterparts, the women who are transactional and will overlook infidelity as long as the bills are paid.

Instead, they go for the women who believe in love and will go above and beyond for the right man, regardless of how much money they bring to the table. These women typically come with boundaries and rules, which is the part they always seek to bypass.

Championing a man for being deceptive in matters of the heart is a character flaw—end of.

As grown men, the consequences of being deceptive to loving women should be more than evident.

I mean, these are the same men who want sympathy when they have to pay spousal or child support, or randomly get sued by jilted exes, asserting that they led with power and coercion.

Nevertheless, they are knowingly getting involved with women who expect monogamy, only to fail them miserably with no remorse.

The Bottom Line

These men hate Megan Thee Stallion for what she represents: a gorgeous, sex-positive woman who is rich and talented, and thus can date by choice rather than by force.

These men trigger men who lead with full wallets and hollow hearts, because, obviously, money only goes so far when you have your own. They are not searching for partners; they seek out women who forget their boundaries when they see dollar signs and thus will allow almost anything to keep their relationships intact.

The fact that Megan walked away — and yes, I say this even if she does go back — is a red flag to these men, because it shows that even women with questionable reputations, who are supposedly washed up and out of options, can still choose better. Women who dare to set and maintain standards are like kryptonite to men who are so poor that they can only offer money.

Let me ask you this: if these men are so resolute on never being tied down, why do they pretend to be just to get the women they want? If the goal is to live a peaceful life, why does it seem like the goal is to degrade women into submission, rather than telling the truth and searching for women who are fine with a man who never commits, as long as the bills are paid?

These men are very much sadistic. At a point, you have to admit that this isn’t just about whether men, especially the rich ones, are capable of being faithful. This is about inflicting pain on particular groups of women as a means of humbling and degrading them all while benefiting from being connected to those very same women.

To the insanely talented Megan Thee Stallion, I wish you nothing but peace and prosperity, no matter who you choose to date next. And whether you choose to be monogamous, poly, or a hot girl forever.

And with that, I leave you with this: